Welcome to Auroraflow! We're not just a massage and relaxation space; we're a space that celebrates diversity, inclusivity, and the beautiful tapestry of human identities. Today, we're excited to journey into the world of pronouns! Whether you're just learning about pronouns or you're well-versed, this blog is for you. Let's celebrate and learn together! 🌈

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This page is part of our broader mission-based community education program. This is a series dedicated to learning about pronouns. It's connected to our goal of creating a safe space for LGBTQIA2S people. If you have any questions, concerns, or feedback, please contact us.

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What Are Pronouns?

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Pronouns are the building blocks of how we express ourselves and refer to others. You've most likely had quizzes on these in grade school; they're the words that stand in for people's names and keep conversations flowing smoothly. But they're more than just grammar; pronouns are a key part of how we present our gender identity to the world. And in this day and age, they are important pieces of information that can shape relationships with people in our community.

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The Pronoun Palette: A Rainbow of Possibilities

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🌼 He/Him and She/Her: These pronouns are the familiar cornerstones, traditional pronouns. He/him pronouns are often used by individuals who identify as male, and she/her pronouns are typically used by those who identify as female.

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🌟 They/Them: A pronoun choice for those who don't identify strictly as male or female, or man and woman. It's important to remember that "they/them" can be used in both singular and plural context— language is evolving!It'ss also important to remember that these non-traditional pronouns could mean something different forpeople'ss gender identity and sex. Don't assume someone'spronouns,s regardless of how theypresent them.  Also, if you don't quite understand someone's pronouns, don't think too much intothem;- just respectthem.t 

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🌀 Ze/Zir and Xe/Xem: These are neo-pronouns, a category of new (neo) pronouns used in place of “she,” “he,” or “they” when referring to a person. Ze/zir and xe/xem provide non-binary individuals with more pronoun options that truly reflect their identities. Running into these in the wild, we most often hear people struggle with pronunciation. If tha'ss something that comes up for you, always feel free to ask and practice. People are kind when you try!

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Navigating Gender Identity and Pronouns

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Gender identity is who we know ourselves to be; it's about how we feel inside. It is not about our biological sex or about what you have in your pants. Gender is something created by people; it's not biological. Gender is how you feel about yourself. Many folks in the LGBTQIA community posit gender as a construct typically useful in marketing clothing and whatnot. Pronouns, on the other hand, are the words we use to express our identity. Recognizing this distinction is a step towards creating an inclusive world where everyone's identity is respected. 💃🏽

Respect, the Importance of Using Pronouns

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Using the right pronouns is about respect and affirmation.✊🏾 It's okay if you're new to this – we all start somewhere! If you're unsure, the best practice is to ask someone for their pronouns. It's a small gesture that shows you value their identity.

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Allies in Action: Using Pronouns with Heart

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As allies, we play a vital role in creating a world that honors diverse identities. One simple way to support the LGBTQIA community is by sharing our pronouns. It's a way to normalize pronoun use and make others feel safe and seen.

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Using Pronouns with our Team and Clients

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So how do we make all this even more present in our actual work space? Our team proudly wears nametags on their shirts that display their pronouns. To us, this is a visual symbol of our support for others who are unsure of the pronouns someone uses. It's also a helpful reminder. In times where you may forget a team member's pronouns, it's always great to ask! Some people use traditional pronouns, others use gender-non-conforming pronouns, and some use a mix.

For our clients, we ask for pronouns at the door. When you book a session with us, you'll have the opportunity to share your pronouns on the intake forms that are sent to you. It's our way of creating a welcoming environment where you can be yourself. From there, these pronouns are added to your name in our system so that anyone working with you is aware of how you want to be addressed. Just as we hope to be respected, we want to best respect our clients. 

We know that a spa experience is deeply personal, and your comfort matters.

We All Use Pronouns!

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Pronouns are more than words; they're the threads that weave our identities into the fabric of our lives. At Auroraflow and in Durham, North Carolina, we celebrate the uniqueness of individuals. We're happy to be part of an affirming community and city. Whether you're new to being conscious of pronoun usage or a seasoned advocate, we invite you to join us on this journey of learning, acceptance, and celebration. Together, we can create a space where everyone can relax, rejuvenate, and revel in their authentic selves.

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See you at the spa! ✨

This blog post was updated on 3/8/2024.

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